Almost one in five adults in the US, or 18 percent, lived with an alcoholic while growing up, and are now commonly referred to as Adult Children of Alcoholics, or ACOA. Not all alcoholic families are the same. Some are more severe than others and have multiple problems. ACOA’s may have loving but inconsistent parents, which makes it difficult for them to speak negatively about their childhood to anyone.
These days the expression “I am so depressed right now, today, in life, etc..” has become almost a mood people refer to, but it is important to remember that to many, depression is more than just a current mood. Depression affects approximately 15 million American adults on a yearly basis, about 6.7 percent of the U.S. population- 18 years of age and older. Like addiction, depression is a brain disorder and a serious illness, and often times it goes hand in hand with addiction.
Commonly, the behavior of addicts leads everyone around them to walk on eggshells, and not know how to act. Either people are afraid to incur the anger of the addict, or afraid to risk sending them into another bender. However, until the problem is actually verbalized, out loud, to the addict, the friends and family “secret” will not lose its power, or magically resolve itself.